The Harm of Comparing Children: A Call for Supportive Parenting

The article addresses the detrimental effects of parental comparisons on children's self-esteem in Nigeria. It cites research published in 2025 indicating that frequent social comparisons by parents correlate with lower self-esteem among adolescents, particularly when unfavorable comparisons are made.

Children exposed to phrases like “Why can’t you be like your brother?” may internalize feelings of inadequacy. The article emphasizes that children develop at different rates, excelling in various areas such as academics or creativity.

UNICEF states that nurturing care and supportive relationships are crucial for children's emotional wellbeing. It suggests that parents should focus on individual progress rather than comparisons, advocating for phrases that encourage improvement, such as “You struggled with this before, but you are improving.” The article also notes that academic pressures can lead to psychological difficulties, underscoring the importance of a supportive home environment for emotional growth.